ENFJ
The Giver
Principled, Charismatic, empathetic, idealistic, ignores faults, imaginative, accepting and outspoken
Infinite Altruism is the basis of peace and happiness. If you want altruism, you must control hate and you must practice patience.
– The Dali Llama
Emotional mastery, calm, leadership, balance of heart and mind stability without repression
Characteristics
Intuitive, mature, controlled, passionate and devout; this King has complete control over his emotions with his logic. This king wears his heart on his sleeve, and while he does not often join the merriment with his family it brings him great joy. Love is the longest heart string he has and it’s the strongest muscle. The love for his family is his will to live, without them his heart would simply stop beating. All his values and everything he knows all comes down to them.
Due to the heavy weight of his knowledge, this he can be calculating and manipulative. The amount of emotional knowledge this individual holds is terrifying, he can bend a heart with a simple turn of phrase. Which, he has zero shame in doing. They can find it hard to let go of the past and remembers every single hurt and betrayal. Part of this king is Self-destructive, and may make decisions contrary to his own needs, sacrificing it all for his loyalties. This will be part of his demise in his end, but he will die one of the most loved and honored men in the world.
Symbolism
A mature king sits on a throne floating amid turbulent seas, holding a cup and scepter. Fish and ships appear in the water; his throne has dolphins (emotional depth). The calm expression amid waves symbolizes emotional balance, compassion, diplomacy, and mastery over feelings.
(If you’d like visuals for the Cups Kings/Queens or the remaining suits, let me know—I can provide more.)
Meaning
Someone you are dealing with does not seem like they have as much authority as they do, due to their peaceful natures. It could be someone who dictates the final call, or the CEO and you wouldn’t even know it.
This is a time for emotional restraint, and to approach this in a calm diplomatic approach. Whether people are looking to you to be the lighthouse in the storm or waiting for you to blow up it is prudent that you don’t. Create calm clarity in your mind and remind yourself that nothing can sway the foundation you’ve built yourself on. It’s a time to consider others, and to heal them with generosity and love. Just be mindful to balance the needs of others with your own.
The King of Cups Reversed
“Anger is never without reason, but seldom with a good one.”
— Benjamin Franklin
Emotional manipulation, imbalance, coldness, logic without warmth
Meaning
Emotional Manipulator
This king knows how to play heart strings like a harp. It may even be to the point where he can get into your head that way. If you sense his guilt tripping or pity party is coming in full swing, put your boxing gloves on and your hands in front of your face. (Figuratively of course, he might actually take it as a threat)
Imbalance
Emotionally, this king is all over the place. While ruling with their heart, they let others sway him to and fro. If you can appeal to their emotions they will abandon all logical sense of a situation and simply fold in half.
Coldness
It’s pretty obvious something has hurt this king so severely that they refuse to feel anything at all. Where you once found a full heart of warmth, has turned into one completely frost bitten
Overly Logical
As a result, they are ruling with their head over their heart. Your tears don’t sway this ruler. Your suffering doesn’t so much as sway their judgement. There’s not use trying to appeal to them with emotions, the only solution is to go through his mind.
Refusing to justly punish others
The heart strings of this king is frustrating at best. They dole punishment here it hurts the least, as opposed to where it is properly due. If you are in their favor, you can get away with murder. Though if you’re not, you can get executed for something as simple as not arriving on schedule.
