Everyone in my family has died from some form of cancer.
Well, besides my paternal grandmother, she died of pneumonia.
My Mother died from a reoccurrence of breast cancer. The first time she was diagnosed around 2014, they found a tumor the size of a grain of salt. Despite taking all the doctors recommendations, including radiation which literally scolded her flesh; as well as a low dose of chemo (low enough that she didn’t lose her hair). In 2021 the cancer re-emerged and immediately metastasized into her bones. Tumors were found from her skull to her toes, and quickly spread everywhere. Despite a prognosis of 5 to 7 years, she passed away in six months.
Fortunately I’ve had another relative who was diagnosed with breast cancer two times, and while she is still living she did die. In fact, her story of her experience has completely changed my perspective on life as we know it, especially in regard to what happens after we’re living. The second occurrence of her breast cancer lead her to surgery here she had to be resuscitated on the operating table. This is me to believe that you literally cannot get breast cancer twice without dying, whether or not you come back.
In 2015 my maternal grandmother passed away from pancreatic cancer. It went completely undetected until she started returning fluid. It was only discovered after perform performed a surgery in order to put splints in to help her pass that fluid. When surgeons opened her up, they found cancer literally everywhere and closed her back up without performing the target of the surgery. In under a week, she passed in her home, surrounded by everyone she loved.
My grandmother was predeceased by her husband. My maternal grandfather had prostate cancer for over a century. Cancer was not his only diagnosis, he also had Alzheimer’s disease. While cancer is an ultimately or killed him, the fact of it was overlooked did. One day at home he fell and he was hospitalized. At the hospital, they decided to keep overnight due to blood in his urine. My grandfather was a very stubborn Portuguese man combined with his confusion, he simply refused to stay in bed while he was admitted. Hospital staff administered antipsychotics to him in order to keep him in bed. Due to his fragile, mental state and an appropriate amount of paranoia for the medication he was being administered; he stopped eating and drinking. Ultimately in about a week he succumbed to his illlnesses.
This is relevant because on every antipsychotic medication, written in the side effects is the disclosure that administering antipsychotics to the elderly can result in “an early death “. Not to mention his prostate cancer is a pretty solid reason to have blood in his urine. Hospitalization was against his wishes as he had already declined treatment for his cancer when he was first diagnosed.
Recently, in 2025 my paternal grandfather passed from an extremely rare, extremely aggressive form of skin cancer called Merkel Cell carcinoma (MCC). Despite receiving treatment, he also passed within the year.
I know someday this will be my fate as well.
Instead of succumbing to my fears, I did what I always do and researched the hell out of it.
While I don’t have a medical degree, not even a minor one— I do have a deep fascination with finding out all the in’s and out’s of how I can cheat death in this regard. I’ve gone through too much to kneel to something I can’t control. There is so much research going into cancer all the time. Too much research to ignore.
With that introduction, this part of my blog will be dedicated to everyone. I’ve lost to this horrific condition.
What is cancer
The risk of cancer becomes greater the older we get. This is because there is a greater risk of cancer the more the body replicates cells. The replication and repairing of cells is like a terminal lottery, the more they replicate, repair and multiply, the greater the risk for one of the cells to go rogue. This Rogue cell can be looked at like a corrupted computer file, where it starts multiplying until ultimately taking over the entire system (ie: metastasize ).
Typically these cells won’t get far enough to do that. The human equivalent of dodging and internal bullet, often times these cells will commit suicide and simply become a non-issue. Cancer develops in the instance in which these cells don’t. Then they do everything in their power to multiply.
The more the cells divide to recover the ones lost in the healing process, the greater the risk of one of those cells becoming cancerous. This is why activity such as consuming tobacco and alcohol consumption are frequently linked to cancer diagnosis’s.
How do you beat cancer?
Simply put, you don’t. There will likely never be a single cure-all for every type of cancer, because the cells for all our organs differ and require different nutrients to thrive.
While I can’t tell you how to cheat death, I can tell you a bunch of things I’ve learned throughout my years, backed by credible scholarly articles and medical studies. Knowing someday this will happen to me, I’ll let you know all the things I plan to take into consideration in my own cancer journey.
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Once Again: I am not a medical professional. These are simply the things I have found to be interesting in my own journey to shed light on the fears I have. Someday, I do hope we can find ways to eliminate this pain for everyone. As not a single one of my relatives have gone out without fear and agony, and that is something I do not want for myself or anyone else.
Take these articles with a grain of salt, and follow whatever your ACTUAL PHD HOLDING WELL EXPERIENCED DOCTOR recommends. Always bring these things to their attention, and don’t simply expect them to be a “quick fix” for a life altering condition. I cannot guarantee, now will I ever be liable if you choose holistic approaches over the advice of a professional. Yes, a lot of these approaches are holistic.
Part of me believes the cure for most kinds of cancer is probably something that already exists, but simply has yet to be formulated to be exploited as a cure. I’ve heard a lot of absolutely wild theories; but I think the wildest theory is my own.
While cancer can be genetic (Such a breast cancer) environmental (Lead, chemicals, exposure to the sun) or consequential (tobacco and alcohol use); I think the deciding factor of it’s mortality comes to one thing alone.
I think cancer is a spiritual disease
Humans require more than to chase the American dream, success and money. Even psychologically, we are geared towards being stable under conditions where we support one another (an example being: Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs). In this wold where humanity is becoming increasingly isolated, materially driven, and encouraged to overlook our own wellness for the sake of companies that will replace you the second you’re deemed a risk or are not pulling your weight.
The soul has left society. It seems people are treated more like cannon fodder in the corporate sense, as opposed to being treated like the people we are. This bureaucratic perspective suppresses the human spirit in order to control the masses. It simply isn’t conducive of good business to have a mutiny over our basic rights and needs being violated.
